Let us now discuss some of the different kinds of remedies and
treatments taught by Islam:
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Whoever works
righteousness, whether male or female, while he (or she) is a true believer, verily, to
him We will give a good life (in this world, with respect, contentment and lawful
provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what
they used to do (i.e., Paradise in the Hereafter).” [al-Nahl 16:97]
The reason for this is clear: the believers in Allaah whose faith is
correct and motivates them to do righteous deeds that reform their hearts and characters,
and change their status in this world and the next, have the basic principles according to
which they deal with every kind of joy and grief that they may face. They receive
blessings and joys with acceptance and thanksgiving, and put them to use in beneficial
ways. When they do this, they feel happy and hope that it will last and will bring them
reward for their gratitude, as well as other things that will supercede the original
goodness and blessings.
When faced with distress, harm, worries and anxieties, they try to
resist them and reduce them as much as they can, and they react with befitting patience to
the things in which they have no choice. They gain a lot of benefits as a result, such as:
resilience and toughness as is appropriate; useful experience, strong willpower, patience,
the hope of reward, and many other benefits which reduce the distress felt. Thus their
anxiety is replaced with joy and the hope of blessings and reward from Allaah, as the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) stated in the saheeh hadeeth:
“How marvellous is the affair of the believer! Everything that happens to him is
good, and this does not apply to anyone except the believer. If something good befalls
him, he gives thanks for it, and that is good for him. If something bad befalls him, he
bears it with patience, and that is good for him.”
This is the way in which we may view calamities in a positive light.
2. Thinking of how the Muslim may earn expiation for his sins, purify
his heart and raise his status, when he is stricken with distress and worry in this life.
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “Nothing of fatigue, illness, distress, worry, grief or harm befalls the
Muslim, not even a prick from a thorn, but Allaah will accept it as expiation for some of
his sins.”
According to a report narrated by Muslim: “No illness, fatigue,
sickness or grief befalls the Muslim, not even worries, but it will be an expiation for
some of his sins.”
The one who is distressed or worried should know that whatever
psychological pain afflicts him is not wasted, but serves a purpose in increasing his hasanaat
(good deeds) and expiating for his sayi’aat (bad deeds). The Muslim should
realize that if it were not for disasters and afflictions, we would come empty-handed on
the Day of Resurrection, as some of the salaf (early generations of Islam) pointed
out, which is why they would rejoice when misfortune struck just as we rejoice at times of
ease.
When a person understands how the disasters that befall him expiate for
his sins, he will rejoice and be of good cheer, especially if that happens to him straight
after he has committed a sin, as happened to some of the Sahaabah, may Allaah be pleased
with them. ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mughaffal (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that a
man met a woman who had been a prostitute during the time of Jaahiliyyah. He
started to joke with her, then he touched her. She told him, “Watch it! Allaah has
destroyed shirk (once ‘Affaan said: has destroyed Jaahiliyyah) and has
brought us Islam.” The man went away, and walked into a wall, cutting his face. The
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came along, so the man told him what
had happened, and he said: “You are a slave for whom Allah wishes good. When Allaah
wishes good for His slave, He hastens the punishment for his sin; when He does not wish
good for His slave, he withholds the punishment until the matter is settled on the Day of
Resurrection, when all of his sins will be brought forth together.”
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“When Allaah wishes good for His slave, He hastens to bring about his punishment in
this world, and if He does not wish good for him, He withholds the punishment until he is
dealt with for his sin on the Day of Resurrection.”
3. Understanding the reality of this world
The believer knows that this world is only temporary, that its luxuries
are few, and that whatever pleasures exist here are always imperfect. If it causes a
little laughter, it gives many reasons to weep; if it gives a little, it withholds far
more. The believer is only detained here, as the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: “This world is the prison of the believer and the
paradise of the kaafir.”
This world is also fatigue, pain, misery and suffering, so the believer
feels relief when he departs from it. Abu Qutaadah ibn Rib’i al-Ansaari used to say
that a funeral passed the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
and he said: “He is now relieved, and people feel relieved of him.” The people
asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, how can he be relieved and people feel relieved of
him?” He said, “The believing slave (who dies) is relieved of the fatigue and
pain of this world and has gone to the mercy of Allaah; when the rebellious slave dies,
people, land, trees and animals are relieved of him.”
For the believer, death brings a respite from the distress, worries and
pain of this life, as is stated in the hadeeth: “When the believer is about to die,
the angels of mercy bring white silk and say, ‘Come out content, with the pleasure of
Allaah upon you, to the mercy of Allaah and sweet fragrance and a Lord who is not
angry.’ So (the soul) comes out like the best fragrance of musk and the angels hand
it to one another until they bring it to the gate of heaven. They say, ‘How good is
this fragrance that has come from the earth.’ They bring it to the souls of the
believers, and they rejoice over it much more than you do when one who has been absent
returns. They ask him, ‘What did So-and-so do? What did So-and-so do?’ then (the
angels) say, ‘Leave him alone, for he was suffering the distress of the world.’
When he asks, ‘Did not So-and-so come to you?’ they say: ‘He was taken to
his home in the Pit (i.e., Hell).’ When the kaafir is about to die, angels of
punishment bring sackcloth and say, ‘Come out discontent, with the wrath of Allaah
upon you, to the punishment of Allaah.’ So (the soul) comes out like the worst stench
of rotten meat, and they take it to the gate of the earth. They say, ‘How foul is
this stench,’ until they bring it to the souls of the kuffaar.”
This understanding of the reality of this world makes it easier for the
believer to bear afflictions, pains, distress and anxiety, because he knows that they are
an inevitable part of the nature of this life.
4. Following the examples of the Prophets and the righteous
The Prophets and the righteous suffered more distress in this world
than other people. Each person is tested according to the strength of his faith. If Allaah
loves a person, He tests him. Sa’d (may Allaah be pleased with him) asked the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “O Messenger of Allaah, which of the
people suffers the most distress?” He said: “The Prophets, then those who come
after them (in terms of status), then those who come after them. A man will be tested
according to the strength of his faith. If his faith is strong, then the distress with
which he is tried will be greater; if his faith is weak, he will be tested in accordance
with the level of his faith. Distress will keep on befalling the slave until he walks on
the face of the earth free from sin.”
5. Making the Hereafter one’s main concern
The concerns of this world overwhelm and confuse people, but if the
slave makes the Hereafter his main concern, Allaah will help him to focus and be
determined, as was narrated by Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him): “The Messenger
of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Whoever has the
Hereafter as his main concern, Allaah will fill his heart with a feeling of richness and
independence; he will be focused and feel content, and this world will come to him in
spite of it. Whoever has this world as his main concern, Allaah will cause him to feel
constant fear of poverty; he will be distracted and unfocused, and he will have nothing of
this world except what was already predestined for him.’”
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “When a person
spends his entire day with no other concern but Allaah alone, Allaah, may He be glorified,
will take care of all his needs and take care of all that is worrying him; He will empty
his heart so that it will be filled only with love for Him, free his tongue so that it
will speak only in remembrance of Him (dhikr) and cause all his faculties to work
only in obedience to Him. But if a person spends his entire day with no other concern but
this world, Allaah will make him bear its distress, anxiety and pain; He will leave him to
sort himself out, and cause his heart to be distracted from the love of Allaah towards the
love of some created being, cause his tongue to speak only in remembrance of that creation
instead of remembering Allaah, and cause his faculties to work in obeying and serving
them. So he will strive hard, labouring like some work-animal, to serve something other
than Allaah… Everyone who turns away from being a true slave of Allaah and obeying
Him and loving Him will be burdened with servitude, love and obedience to some created
being. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): ‘And whosoever turns away
(blinds himself) from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent (Allaah), We appoint for him
a shaytaan (devil) to be a qareen (intimate companion) to him.’ [al-Zukhruf
43:36].”
6. A surprisingly effective remedy: remembering death
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Remember frequently the one who will destroy all your pleasures: death, for there is
no-one who remembers death when in straitened circumstances, but his situation will become
easier, and there is no-one who remembers death during times of ease, but his
circumstances will become straitened.”
7. Praying to Allaah, may He be exalted
Du’aa’ (prayer or supplication) is very beneficial, and
includes both protection and treatment. As far as protection in concerned, the Muslim is
obliged to turn to Allaah and pray to Him for refuge from distress and to keep him away
from it, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to do. His
servant Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) tells us: “I used to serve the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he stayed in
Madeenah (i.e. was not travelling). I often used to hear him saying: ‘Allaahumma
inni a’oodhu bika min al-hamm wa’l-hazn wa’l-‘ajz wa’l-kasal
wa’l-bukhl wa’l-jubn wa dala’ al-dayn wa ghalbat al-rijaal (O Allaah, I
seek refuge with You from distress, grief, incapacity, laziness, miserliness, cowardice,
the burden of debt and from being overpowered by men).’”
This du’aa’ is very effective in preventing distress
before it happens; prevention is better, and easier, than cure.
When one is worried about what may happen in the future, the following du’aa’
is very beneficial. Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say: “Allaahumma
aslih li deeni alladhi huwa ‘ismat amri wa aslih li dunyaaya allati fihaa
ma’aashi wa aslih li aakhirati allati fihaa ma’aadi w’aj’al al-hayaata
ziyaadatan li fi kulli khayri w’aj’al al-mawta raahatan li min kulli sharr
(O Allaah, make me adhere properly to my religion, on which all my affairs depend; make
this world good for me in which is my livelihood; make my Hereafter good for me, in which
is my ultimate destiny; make my life increase in every good thing and make my death a
respite from every evil).”
When distress and pain befall a person, the door of du’aa’
is always open to him; it is never closed. When one calls upon the Most Generous, He will
respond and give. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And when My
slaves ask you concerning Me, then (answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My
Knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without
any mediator or intercessor). So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be
led aright.” [al-Baqarah 2:186]
One of the greatest du’aa’s which take away distress
and anxiety and bring joy is the famous du’aa’ which the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged everyone who hears it to learn it by
heart:
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “There is no-one who is afflicted by distress and grief, and says: ‘Allaahumma
inni ‘abduka ibn ‘abdika ibn amatika naasyati bi yadika, maada fiyya hukmuka,
‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka. As’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi
nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw
ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghayb ‘indaka an taj’al al-Qur’aana
rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’ huzni wa dhihaab hammi (O Allaah, I am
Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your maidservant; my forelock is in Your hand, Your
command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every
name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You
taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with
You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a
departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety),’ but Allaah will take away his
distress and grief, and replace it with joy.” He was asked: “O Messenger of
Allaah, should we learn this?” He said: “Of course; everyone who hears it should
learn it.”
This important hadeeth indicates the following: the slave should admit
that he belongs to Allaah and that he cannot do without Him and has no other master than
Allaah; that he should be a slave to Allaah, announce his submission to Him, obey His
commandments and heed His prohibitions; that Allaah is directing and controlling him as He
wills; that he should demonstrate his submission to Allaah and his acceptance of His
decree; that he should pray to Allaah, using all His Names, then ask for what he needs.
A number of other du’aa’s to do with distress and
anxiety have also been narrated in the Sunnah. They include the following:
Ibn ‘Abbaas reported that when the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) felt distressed, he would say: “Laa ilaaha
ill-Allaah al-‘Azeem al-Haleem, laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb al-‘Arsh
al-‘azeem, la ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb al-samawaat wa Rabb al-ard wa Rabb al-‘Arsh
al-kareem (There is no god but Allaah, the All-Powerful, the Forbearing; there is no
god but Allaah, Lord of the mighty Throne; there is no god but Allaah, Lord of heaven,
Lord of earth, and Lord of the noble Throne).”
Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that when the Messenger
of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was distressed by something, he
would say: “Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoom bi rahmatika astagheeth (O Ever-Living, O
Eternal, by Your mercy I seek help).”
Asmaa’ bint ‘Umayr said: “The Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me: ‘Shall I not teach you some
words which you can say at times of distress? ‘Allaah Allaah rabbee laa ushriku
bihi shay’an (Allaah Allaah is my Lord, I do not associate anything with
Him).’”
Another of the beneficial du’aa’s which the Messenger
of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) taught us is the one he told us
about when he said: “The du’aa’ of the person who is in distress is:
‘Allaahumma rahmataka arjoo fa laa takilni ilaa nafsi tarfat ‘ayn
w’aslih li sha’ni kullahu laa ilaaha illa anta (O Allaah, for Your mercy I
hope, so do not leave me in charge of my affairs even for the blink of an eye; rectify all
my affairs. There is no god except You)’”
If a person thinks about the meaning of these du’aa’s
and prays with concentration and a sincere intention, doing all those things that can help
to bring about a response, Allaah will fulfil his hopes and do the things asked for; He
will turn his distress into joy.
If the du’aa’ comes from a heart which is filled with
faith, it will dispel worry and bring comfort. The scholars have mentioned many stories of
people who prayed to Allaah in times of calamity and distress, and Allaah responded to
their prayer and saved them from an enemy, or from drowning, or from starvation or
disaster. One example is the story of what happened to the great Sahaabi al-‘Alaa
al-Hadrami, who was one of the most prominent scholars and devoted worshippers, one of the
close friends (awliyaa’) of Allaah whose du’aa’s are
answered. During the campaign against the apostates of Bahrain, he pitched camp, but
before the people could settle down, the camels bolted, carrying away all the provisions
of the army, including their tents and water, leaving them with nothing but the clothes
they were wearing. It was night-time, and they could not restrain even one camel. The
people were filled with indescribable distress and alarm, and some of them began making
wills to one another (because they felt that death was inevitable). Al-‘Alaa’
called the people together and said: “O people, are you not Muslims? Are you not
striving for the sake of Allaah? Are you not the ansaar (supporters) of
Allaah?” They said, “Of course.” He said, “Then be of good cheer, for
Allaah will not forsake anyone who is in your situation.” When the time for Fajr
prayer came, he called the people to pray and led them in prayer, then he knelt up, and
the people did likewise. He started to pray (make du’aa’), raising his hands,
and the people did likewise. They prayed until the sun rose, and the people began to look
at the mirages caused by the sun, shimmering one after another, all the while fervently
praying. When he reached the third [??], Allaah created a great stream of fresh water
beside them. [‘Alaa’] walked towards it, and the people followed him, then they
drank and washed themselves. Before the sun had reached its zenith, the camels started to
come back from all directions, bringing the supplies loaded on them, so the people did not
lose anything at all, and they were able to give water to the camels. This is one of the
signs of Allaah witnessed by the people during that campaign. (Al-Bidaayah
wa’l-Nihaayah: Dhikr riddat ahl al-Bahrayn wa ‘awdatihim).
8. Praying for the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
(i.e., saying “Allaahumma salli ‘ala Muhammad,” etc.)
This is one of the greatest ways through which Allaah may relieve
worries:
Al-Tufayl ibn Ubayy ibn Ka’b reported that his father said:
“When two-thirds of the night had passed, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) got up and said: ‘O people, remember Allaah,
remember Allaah. The first blowing of the Trumpet has come, and will be followed by the
second blowing. Death has come, with all that it implies, death has come with all that it
implies.’ I said: ‘O Messenger of Allaah, I pray a lot for you. How much of my
prayers should I devote to you?’ He said, ‘As much as you want.’ I said,
‘A quarter?’ He said, ‘As much as you want, and if you increase it, it will
be good for you.’ I said, ‘Half?’ He said, ‘As much as you want, and
if you increase it, it will be good for you.’ I said, ‘Two-thirds?’ He
said, ‘As much as you want, and if you increase it, it will be good for you.’ I
said, ‘I will devote all my prayer to you.’ He said, ‘Then your worries
will be taken care of and your sin will be forgiven.’”
9. Relying upon Allaah and entrusting matters to Him
“When a person knows that Allaah is Able to do all things, that He
alone makes choices for His slaves and runs their affairs, that the way He runs His
slave’s affairs is better than the way the slave would do it for himself, that He
knows better about the slave’s interests than the slave does, that He is more able to
achieve them, that He is more sincere and more merciful towards His slave than the slave
is to himself; and also knows that he cannot progress or regress any further than the
limits that Allaah has decreed for him, for nobody can change the will and decree of
Allaah – when a person knows all this, he will submit himself to his Lord and hand
over his affairs to Him, throwing himself before his Lord like a weak slave throwing
himself before a mighty and powerful king. Allaah deals with His slave as He wishes, and
the slave has nothing to do with it. Only after he has submitted thus will the slave feel
relief from his distress, worries and regrets. He gives the burden of his needs and
interests to One Who is not concerned about how heavy or great the burden is. Allaah will
take care of it, instead of him, and will show him His kindness and mercy, without the
slave getting tired or worried, because all his concern is now focused on Allaah alone.
His worry about his needs and interests in this world has been lifted from him and his
heart is now free of this concern. How good his life is now, how blessed his heart and how
great his happiness and joy!
But as for the person who insists on running his own affairs and making
his own choices, whose concern is only for his own share and not for his duties towards
his Lord, Allaah will leave him alone with the choices he has made, so he will be
surrounded by concerns, worries, distress, grief, fear, exhaustion and depression. His
thoughts will be confused, none of his deeds will be pure and none of his hopes will be
fulfilled. He will gain no respite, and will enjoy no pleasure. He will never feel joy or
contentment. He will be labouring like a working-animal, with no hope of gaining anything
that could help him in the Hereafter.”
“When a person relies upon Allaah and puts his trust in Him, he is
not controlled by bad illusions. He trusts in Allaah and hopes for bounty from Him, which
protects him from distress and worry, as well as many psychological and physical diseases.
Thus his heart gains indescribable strength, relaxation and joy. The one who is truly free
from problems is the one whom Allaah has freed and helped to strive against his own-self (jihaad
al-nafs) by seeking beneficial means of strengthening his heart and dispelling
anxiety. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “… And whosoever puts
his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him…” [al-Talaaq 65:3] –
i.e., He will take care of everything that is of concern to him, whether it has to do with
his religion or his worldly affairs.
The person who relies on Allaah is strong in heart and is not adversely
affected by illusions or things that happen, because he knows that this is a sign of
weakness and fear that is unfounded. He also knows that Allaah has guaranteed to take
complete care of the one who puts his trust in Him, so he trusts Allaah and has confidence
in His promise. Thus his worries and anxiety disappear, hardship is replaced with ease,
sadness turns to joy and fear turns to a feeling of security. We ask Allaah to keep us
safe and to bless us with strength of heart and steadfastness through complete reliance on
Him, for He has guaranteed all goodness and protection from all evil and harm to those who
put their trust in Him.”
10. Other ways of dispelling distress and anxiety include paying
attention to what is beneficial, focusing on what matters today and no longer worrying
about what may happen tomorrow or regretting what happened yesterday
Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sought
refuge with Allaah from worry and regret: regret for things that have happened in the past
which one cannot go back and change, and worries about what may happen in the future. The
slave should think only about the present, focusing his energy on doing his best today,
because this is what results in perfect work, and helps him to forget his worries and
regrets. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) prayed a du’aa’,
or taught it to his ummah, he encouraged them not only to seek the help of Allaah and hope
for His blessings, but also to work hard and strive to achieve the protection they prayed
for, for du’aa’ goes hand-in-hand with effort. Thus the slave will strive
for whatever benefits him in his religion or his worldly affairs, and will ask his Lord to
grant him the result for which he is aiming. He asks Allaah for help, just as Abu Hurayrah
reported: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
‘The strong believer is better and more beloved to Allaah than the weak believer, and
both are good. Pay attention to that which could benefit you, seek the help of Allaah and
do not feel incapacitated. If anything befalls you, do not say, “If only I had done
such-and-such, such a thing would have happened.” Say instead, “It is the decree
of Allaah, and what He wills, He does,” for saying “if only…” opens
the way for Shaytaan.’”
Thus the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
established a link between, on the one hand, his command to strive for beneficial things
in every situation, seeking the help of Allaah, and not giving in to feelings of
inadequacy which the harmful kind of laziness, and, on the other, giving in to regret for
things in the past which are over and done with, and thinking about the will and decree of
Allaah. He described things as being of two types: things which the slave can strive to
achieve either in totality or as much as he can, or can protect himself from them, or
lessen their impact, by making an effort and seeking the help of Allaah; and others about
which he cannot do anything, so he should accept them and be content. Undoubtedly, paying
attention to this principle will bring about happiness and dispel worry and distress.
The hadeeth quoted above indicates that one should strive to
eliminate the causes of distress and bring about causes of happiness, by forgetting
about bad things in the past that cannot be changed, and by realizing that to spend too
much time thinking about such an impossible task is a foolish and crazy waste of time. So
one should try not to think about it, and try not to feel anxious about the future or
imagine fear and poverty that may or may not lie ahead. We should realize that the future,
whether good or bad, is something unknown; it is in the hands of the Almighty, All-Wise,
not in the hands of His slaves, and all they have to do is to strive for the good things
and protect themselves from bad things. The slave should know that if he distracts his
mind from worries about the future and puts his trust in his Lord, then Allaah will take
care of it and his worry and anxiety will disappear.
11. One of the most effective ways of finding comfort and contentment
is to remember Allaah frequently
Dhikr (remembrance of Allaah) has a wonderful effect in calming the
soul and relieving stress and worry. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “…
Verily, in the remembrance of Allaah do hearts find rest.” [al-Ra’d 13:28]
The greatest phrase of dhikr that can relieve the distress of
death is: “Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah (there is no god except Allaah).” This
is what Talhah told ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him: “I heard the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say a word which no slave says at the time of
death but Allaah will ease his distress and brighten his colour. It was only the fear that
I might not be able to do it that prevented me from asking him about it before he
died.” ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “I know what it
is.” Talhah asked, “What is it?” ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with
him) said: “Do you know any word greater that what he told his uncle to say? –
‘Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah’.” Talhah said, “That’s it, by
Allaah, that’s it!”
12. Seeking refuge in prayer
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And seek help in
patience and al-salaat (the prayer)…” [al-Baqarah 2:45].
Hudhayfah said: “Whenever the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) was grieved by something, he used to pray.” When Ibn ‘Abbaas
(may Allaah be pleased with him) heard about the death of his brother, he stopped at the
side of the road – as he was on a journey – and prayed, following the command of
Allaah.
13. Another thing that may dispel worry is jihaad for the sake of
Allaah.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“You must strive in jihaad for the sake of Allaah, may He be blessed and exalted, for
it is one of the gates to Paradise, and Allaah dispels worry and distress through
it.”
14. Speaking about the blessings of Allaah, both those which are
obvious and those which are hidden
Acknowledging them and speaking about them dispels worry and distress.
The slave is encouraged to have the attitude of thankfulness, which is the highest level
he can reach, even if he is in a state of poverty, sickness or other kinds of misery. If
he were to compare the innumerable blessings that Allaah has bestowed upon him with the
bad thing that has befallen him, he will see that the distress is as nothing in comparison
to the blessings. When Allaah tests His slave by means of these disasters and miseries,
and the slave does his duty of being patient and accepting, then the difficulties become
easy for him to bear, and he has the hope of earning reward from Allaah for submitting to
Him, and being patient and content. This makes bitter things sweet; the sweetness of the
reward helps him to forget the bitterness of patience.
One of the most beneficial things in this regard is to follow the
advice of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) given in the saheeh
hadeeth reported by Abu Hurayrah: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Look at those who are below you, not at those who are
above you, so that you will not think little of the blessings that Allaah has bestowed
upon you.”
If a person keeps this important concept (of looking only at those
below him) in mind, he will definitely feel that he is better-off than many others when it
comes to good health, physical strength, and provision (rizq) such as food,
clothing, shelter, etc., no matter what his situation. So his anxiety and distress will
disappear, and he will feel increased happiness and joy in the blessings of Allaah which
have raised him above others.
The more he thinks about the blessings of Allaah, both obvious and hidden, spiritual and worldly, he will see that his Lord has
given him many good things, and has lifted from him many bad things. No doubt
this too will dispel worries and anxieties, and bring joy and happiness.
15. Keeping oneself busy with useful work or the pursuit of
beneficial knowledge
This will distract a person’s mind from the matter that has
been causing anxiety. Maybe then he will forget the causes of his distress, and
begin to feel happier and more energetic. This is something which both believers
and non-believers may try to do, but the believer is distinguished by the fact
of his eemaan (faith), his sincerity and his hope for reward when he
occupies himself with learning or teaching something useful or doing something
beneficial. If he is keeping himself busy with worship, then this is worship,
and if he is keeping himself busy with some worldly work or custom, then he
tries to accompany it with the right intention, and seeks the help of Allaah to
do this thing as an act of obedience or worship to Him. Thus his action will be
effective in dispelling his anxiety, stress and grief. How many people are
suffering from anxiety and constant feelings of depression, which result in
various kinds of disease and illness. The right treatment for them was: to
forget the thing that caused the depression and worry, and to keep themselves
busy with some important work. It was important that the work with which they
kept themselves busy was something that they liked to do and looked forward to;
this was more effective in bringing about the desired good results. And Allaah
knows best.
16. Looking for the positive aspects of the events in which
he tends to see only things that he dislikes
Abu Hurayrah said: “The Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘No believing man should hate
a believing woman. If he dislikes one aspect of her character, he will be
pleased with another.’”
The benefits of this hadeeth include: lifting anxiety and
stress, preserving tranquillity, continued upholding of the duties which are
either obligatory or encouraged, and the achievement of peace between the two
parties. Anyone who is not guided by the Prophet’s words, but does the opposite,
will see only the negative aspects of a situation, and will be blinded to the
positive aspects. So it is inevitable that he will become anxious and depressed,
the relationships between him and those with whom he is in close contact will
turn sour, and he will neglect many of the mutual duties that both parties
should pay attention to.
17. Understanding the true value and shortness of this life,
and that time is too precious to be wasted in stress and anxiety
The wise person understands that his true life is one of joy
and contentment. Life is very short, and he should not let himself get carried
away with distress and depression that will make it even shorter. This goes
against the true idea of life, so he is reluctant to spend too much of his life
in distress and depression. In this regard, there is little difference between
the righteous and the rebellious, but the believer can achieve this in the best
way, in a way that benefits him both in this world and in the Hereafter. When
misfortune strikes, or when he is afraid of something bad happening to him, he
should also compare the blessings that he enjoys, both spiritual and worldly,
with whatever misfortune has befallen him. When he does this, he will see just
how much blessing he has, and the bad things will be put into perspective.
Similarly, he can make a comparison between the thing he fears will harm him and
the far greater possibility that he will be kept safe from it: the faint
possibility that he may be harmed is far outweighed by the greater positive
possibilities, and so his anxiety will be relieved. He takes into account the
most likely scenario so that he can try to prepare himself in case it does
happen, and he takes measures to protect himself against things that have not
happened, or to alleviate or reduce the impact of things that have happened.
18. Another beneficial measure is not to allow one’s work and
other duties to accumulate
This means taking decisive action immediately, so that one is
free to deal with whatever comes up in the future, because things that are not
dealt with immediately pile up and are added to previous work that should have
been done, thus making the burden even heavier. If you deal with everything at
the right time, you will be free to deal with whatever lies ahead with a focused
mind and adequate strength.
You should prioritize your work in order of importance, and
try to choose things that interest you and that you enjoy, otherwise you will
become bored and fed up. You can help yourself to achieve this by thinking
clearly and consulting others, for one need never regret consultation. Study
what you want to do in depth, and once you are sure about what action is needed
to achieve your interest and have resolved to go ahead, then put your trust in
Allaah, for Allaah loves those who put their trust in Him.
19. Constantly anticipating and being prepared for all
possibilities
If a person is prepared for the possibility of the loss of a
loved one, the sickness of a relative, incurring a debt, being overpowered by an
enemy, or any other unpleasant possibility that has not yet happened – whilst
seeking refuge with Allaah and hoping to be safe from it – then if his fears
materialize, their impact will not be so great because he has already
anticipated them and prepared himself to deal with them.
One important point that we should make is the fact that many
ambitious people are prepared to deal with major calamities in a calm and
patient manner, but they are unduly worried and stressed by trivial problems.
The reason for this is that they prepare themselves to face major problems, but
forget to prepare themselves to cope with minor troubles, which consequently
cause them harm. The prudent person prepares himself to deal with both major and
minor problems, and asks Allaah to help him and not leave him to deal with it by
himself for even the blink of an eye. Thus both major and minor troubles become
easier to bear, and he remains calm and serene.
20. Another remedy is to complain to religious scholars and
ask them for advice
Their advice and opinions are among the things that can be of
the greatest help in remaining steadfast at times of calamity. The Sahaabah used
to complain to the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
about the torture they were suffering…
Khabbaab ibn al-Aratt (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:
“We complained to the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
when he was reclining on his cloak in the shade of the Ka’bah. We said to him:
‘Why do you not ask Allaah to help us (grant us victory)? Why do you not pray to
Allaah for us?’ He said, ‘A man from the people before you would be placed in a
hole dug for him, then they would bring a saw and cut his head in two, yet that
would not make him renounce his faith. They would use an iron comb to drag the
flesh and nerves from his bones, yet that would not make him renounce his faith.
By Allaah, this matter will be completed (i.e. Islam will be perfected and will
prevail) until a rider travelling from Sana’aa’ to Hadramawt will fear nobody
but Allaah or the attack of a wolf on his sheep, but you are too impatient.’”
The Taabi’een also complained to the Sahaabah. Al-Zubayr ibn
‘Adiyy said: “We came to Anas ibn Maalik and complained to him about what we
were suffering at the hands of al-Hajjaaj. He told us: ‘Be patient, for there
will come no time but the time after it is worse, until you meet your Lord. I
heard that from your Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him).’”
So the Muslim will hear from the scholars and leaders words
which will help him and alleviate his pain, distress and anxiety.
Similarly, one can also seek the help of sincere brothers,
wise relatives and faithful spouses. When Faatimah (may Allaah be pleased with
her) felt distress, she complained to her husband ‘Ali (may Allaah be pleased
with him). ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father)
tells us the story: the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
came to visit Faatimah, but he found a curtain over her door, so he did not
enter. It was very rare for him to enter without greeting her so when ‘Ali (may
Allaah be pleased with him) came, he saw that she was worried and upset. He
asked, “What is the matter?” She said, “The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to me, but he did not come in.”
So ‘Ali (may Allaah be pleased with him) went to him and said: “O Messenger of
Allaah, Faatimah feels very upset because you came to her but you did not come
in.” He said, “I have nothing to do with these worldly things and fancy
decorations.” So ‘Ali went to told Faatimah what the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had said. She said, “Ask the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) what I should do with it.” He said, “tell her to send it to
Banu So-and-so.” (It was a curtain that was decorated with embroidery and so
on).
Going to a man who is wise and has sound opinions can also
help to dispel anxiety.
Al-Mugheerah, the freed slave of al-Waleed, said: “I entered
upon al-Waleed and found him looking worried. I asked, ‘What is worrying you, O
Ameer al-Mu’mineen?’ He said, ‘The number of Muslims has increased, and
the mosque is becoming too small for them. I offered them money for the rest of
this church, so that I could take it and add it to the mosque, to make the place
big enough for the Muslims, but they refused.’ Al-Mugheerah said: ‘O Ameer
al-Mu’mineen, I have an idea that may relieve your worry.’ He asked, ‘What
is it?’ I said: ‘When the Sahaabah took Damascus, Khaalid ibn al-Waleed entered
through the Eastern Gate, conquering by the sword. When the people heard of
this, they rushed towards Abu ‘Ubaydah (who was laying siege to another gate of
the city), asking him for protection. He granted them protection, so they opened
the Gate of Jaabiyah for him. Abu ‘Ubaydah entered peacefully, having made a
truce with the people. We should find out how far the military seizure of land
reached, and take it, but the areas covered by the truce should be left in their
hands. I hope that all of the church will be on land seized militarily, so that
you can incorporate it into the mosque.’ Al-Waleed said: ‘You have made me feel
much better. Take care of this matter yourself.’ So al-Mugheerah took care of
it; he surveyed the area extending from the Eastern Gate towards the Gate of
Jaabiyah, as far as Sooq al-Rayhaan, and found that the military seizure of
territory had continued as far as a little more than four cubits beyond the
Great Arch, so the church could be incorporated into the mosque. So al-Waleed
sent word to the Christians to tell them: ‘The whole of this church lies in the
territory which was seized militarily, so it belongs to us, not to you.’ They
said: ‘Initially you offered us money and land, and we refused. Be generous and
give us what you offered us originally, so that we may settle this matter
peaceably, and we will give you the rest of the church.’ So the matter was
settled peaceably.” (Al-Badaayah wa’l-Nihaayah fi Seerat al-Waleed).
21. The person who is distressed or worried should know that
after hardship comes ease
So he should think positively and realize that Allaah will
make a way out for him. The more intense his stress and depression is, the
closer he is to relief and a way out.
Allaah says in Soorat al-Sharh (interpretation of the
meaning): “So verily, with the hardship, there is relief, verily, with the
hardship, there is relief.” [al-Sharh 94:5-6]. In effect, hardship is
mentioned once, and relief is mentioned twice, because the definite article (“al”)
indicates that the hardship mentioned in the first aayah quoted is the
same as that mentioned in the second, whereas the fact that relief is mentioned
in an indefinite form (with tanween) shows that the relief mentioned in
the second aayah is different from that mentioned in the first.
The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) advised Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with
him and his father): “Know that victory (or achievement) comes through patience,
and that ease comes through hardship…”
22. Another remedy for distress is certain kinds of food
Al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) reports that
‘Aa’ishah used to order talbeen for people who were sick or had been
stricken by tragedy, and she would say: “I heard the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: ‘Talbeen warms the heart
of the sick person and alleviates some of a person’s grief.’”
Al-Bukhaari also narrated from ‘Aa’ishah, the wife of the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) that whenever a member of her family died, and the women gathered
together then dispersed, except for her family and close friends, she would ask
for a pot of talbeen, then she would cook it, make thareed [a dish
of sopped bread, meat and broth] and pour the talbeen over it, then tell
the women: “Eat from it, for I heard the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say that talbeen is the cure
for the heart of the sick person and alleviates some of a person’s grief.”
Talbeen is a soup or broth made from flour or bran to
which honey is added. It is called talbeen because it resembles milk (laban).
It is cooked from ground barley.
Saying that it is a cure for the heat of the sick person
means that it relaxes him, gives him energy and alleviates his grief and
distress.
Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him) reported that ‘Aa’ishah
said: “Whenever the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
heard that someone was sick or in pain, and not eating, he would say: ‘You
should make talbeen and let him sip it. By the One in Whose hand is my
soul, it will cleanse the stomach of any one of you just as you wash the dirt
from your faces with water.’”
Al-Tirmidhi reported that ‘Aa’ishah said: “Whenever any
member of his family fell ill, he would order that soup or broth be made for
them, then he would tell them to sip it. He used to say, ‘It makes the grieving
heart strong and cleanses the heart of the sick person, just as any of you
cleanses the dirt from her face with water.’”
Even though some people might find this strange, this is a
true matter, as it has been proven to be part of the Revelation conveyed by the
infallible Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him). Allaah has created all kinds of food, and He knows best
their characteristics, so the soup of barley mentioned in the hadeeth is one of
the types of food that make people feel better. And Allaah knows best.
With regard to the method of cooking this food for the person
who is physically sick or whose heart is stricken with grief, Ibn Hijr (may
Allaah have mercy on him) said: “What suits the sick person is the water from
barley that has been cooked whole, and what suits the grieving person is the
water from ground barley that has been cooked. And Allaah knows best.”
(Source: Dealing with Worries and Stress by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid, http://islamqa.info/en/ref/books/12)
